Ahh mom guilt. Even when there isn’t anything in particular to feel guilty about we feel guilty for not feeling guilty. Make sense? I know you get it. There is so much pressure these days to be the perfect mom but that is an impossible feat. And even if we do 100 things right…we focus on the one thing we think we did wrong or not quite good enough.
Managing mom guilt can be challenging, but here are some strategies that may help:
1. Recognize that mom guilt is normal: It’s important to understand that feeling guilty is a common experience for many moms. Acknowledge that it’s a natural part of being a parent and that you’re not alone in feeling this way.
2. Challenge negative thoughts: When guilt arises, try to challenge the negative thoughts that contribute to it. Remind yourself that you’re doing your best and that it’s impossible to be a perfect parent. Focus on the positive aspects of your parenting and the love and care you provide for your child.
3. Prioritize self-care: Taking care of yourself is crucial for managing mom guilt. Make sure to prioritize self-care activities that help you relax and recharge. This could include exercise, hobbies, spending time with friends, or simply taking a break when needed. Remember that taking care of yourself allows you to be a better parent.
4. Set realistic expectations: Understand that you can’t do everything and be everywhere at once. Set realistic expectations for yourself and your family. It’s okay to ask for help and delegate tasks when needed. Remember that being a good mom doesn’t mean doing everything perfectly, but rather doing your best with the resources you have.
5. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness can help you stay present and focused on the current moment, reducing feelings of guilt and anxiety. Take a few minutes each day to practice deep breathing, meditation, or other mindfulness techniques. This can help you let go of guilt and focus on the positive aspects of your parenting.
6. Seek support: Reach out to other moms or a support network for guidance and reassurance. Talking to others who have experienced similar feelings can help you gain perspective and realize that you’re not alone. Consider joining a mom’s group, seeking therapy, or talking to a trusted friend or family member.
Remember, managing mom guilt is an ongoing process, and it’s important to be patient and kind to yourself. Focus on the love and care you provide for your child, and remember that you’re doing the best you can…and your kids know it…whether they admit it or not 😉
Lisa, your Busy af Mom
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